Never settle.

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I think most of us girls feel pressured and lonely when we're still single in our twenties. We feel like this is the time when we should have already found the person we want to spend the rest of our lives with. That's what movies and TV series told us but that isn't really how it works in the real world.

In our twenties, we meet a bunch of men who may seem like they are "the one" but at the end of the day, he's just another flavor of wrong. Worse is, there's always that little voice inside our heads saying that we should settle for that person.

I'm only in my early twenties but I've met quite a few guys who made me think, "Oh, maybe this is it." but nope. Let me name three:

• The self-proclaimed indie musician. He doesn't listen to anything with a music video aired on TV. He only listens to those that nobody ever heard. He talks crap about Maroon 5, Daughtry and Lifehouse who  happen to be three of my most favorite artists. And he thinks that people who download songs on Youtube and torrent should be sent to prison. 90%... okay, I'm lying... 100% of my music collection is from illegal downloads. And no, I'm not sorry.
• The "I don't give a fuck what people think" guy. He thinks that being a guy who cares less is cool and he believes that if you push people away, the more they would throw themselves at you. And yeah okay, I kind of of made him think that's true because my head was up my ass during that time. But looking back now, I want to write to that guy and say "That is why you've been single for 3 years. Fuck you. Hard."
• The "I'm not ready for anything serious" guy. Okay, I understand this whole open relationship thing. You know, you two just hang out, have sex and save the serious stuff for later. But truth be told, no one is ever really ready for anything or anyone. You just put yourself out there, wear your heart on your sleeve, attach the fucking strings and anything else that's synonymous to letting yourself fall. 

To be honest, I put up with all these three guys' bullshit for a long time. Thinking about it now, man, I screwed up three times in a row. That's why now, I know that I'm not one to settle for anything less than I deserve. I'm not saying I deserve a perfect relationship because that's nonexistent. I'm saying, I deserve more than what I put up with before.

You want to settle for what's in front of you? Okay. But think about it over and over again.

If you haven't settled, good for you. If you have, well, good luck with that.